请问一下大量的查询是否存在的怎么优化

select
  exists(
    select
      *
    from
      `follows`
    where
      `follows`.`member_id` = 6674124840015757312
      and (
        `member_id` = 6674124840015757312
        and `follow_member_id` = 6680053333551480832
      )
      and `follows`.`deleted_at` is null
  ) as `exists`

这是一个检查好友关系的

member 定义了这个检查好友关系

    public function isFriendships($follow_member_id)
    {
        $member_id = $this->attributes['id'];
        if ($member_id == $follow_member_id) {
            return 2;
        }
        $m = $this->Follows()->where([
            ['member_id', '=', $member_id],
            ['follow_member_id', '=', $follow_member_id]
        ])
            ->exists();

        if ($m) {
            return 1;
        } else {
            return 0;
        }
    }

我在MemberResource api资源的里面查询 导致一堆查询的sql语句 代码怎么写才优雅

   $friendships = $user->isFriendships($this->id);

请教一下大佬怎么优化~